Why adults have extramarital affairs?
Talk about a loaded topic that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since old ages. Affairs can be loaded with evils, cause heartache, and other problems. Plus you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, funds, age dissimilarity, religious education, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will define an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating married men.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affairs. I suppose mainly though it is just the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us flee the real world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to switch the desire on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos people has erected against married dating. For many individuals the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your relatives or anybody else? You will need to lessen the hazard you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major cluster, enormous in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your assets are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extramarital affair sometimes solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Neglect, sadly this is a ordinary groung I fear. One or the other, usually the male is sexually neglecting his woman for a large humber of reasons. As a man I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be caring is gone, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown apart, our common interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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